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More on that whole april fools thing. I'm putting it here rather than in comments or whatever so that nobody who doesn't want to read it has to. Although this isn't intended as a personal attack some people may take it as such, so if there's a risk of that happening, then I'd suggest that you don't read this, because I don't want to hurt anyone. Also, this is only my personal opinion. And all sorts of other standard disclaimers.



My day today went something like this:

Wake up.
Read friends page.
See Almighty Great Drama From Hell happening.
Get worried, concerned, etc.
Spend maybe half an hour or so reading up on it, continuing to be worried and concerned.
Decide that I hadn't a clue what was going on and that I was going to Stay he Hell Out Of It until I actually did have a clue.
Pop my nose in IRC, specifying that this was what I was going to do
Get told it was a april fools
Think. "Oh. Duh"
Think "bugger this for a game of soldiers" and go back to sleep.
Wake up again a few hours later
Notice people angsting in IRC, not knowing what was going on
Have moral dilema over whether it's right to share information that isn't public, or whether it's right to perpetuate the lies by omission.
Decide that the former option i the least worst, as it had been said openly on an IRC channel which is itself public, even if what is said there is only accesible to people on at the time, and make my earlier entry.

At this point, I'm thinking that it was all a really stupid idea, but I wasn't particularly upset. What has upset me is how it's been handled since, with justifications and half arsed apologies. So far I've seen one person who was in any way involved actually make a decent go at an apology. How hard is it to say "yeh, ok, we didn't think things through properly and ended up messing things up; sorry guys"?

Excuses like "but we told anyone who seemed concerned" really don't cut it -- what about the people who were concerned but who didn't speak up? Or the people who spent a while reading with incredulity and feeling hurt in that time before they spoke up?

Additionally, due to arie's suspension, a large part of howto went down for the day. And sure, it's been down before for things like site maintenance, or the DDoS or whatever, but they were unavoidable. Randomly taking parts of the site down on a whim is not a good idea.

And then there's the people (fortunately nobody who I know) who are claiming that those who didn't like the joke need to get a sense of humour. Really, does anybody need to telling that this is just about the worst possible way to improve the mood of people who are pissed off?

And then there's a whole heap of other weasel words and general bullshit. I would like for any of the people who were involved in this to look me in the eye and say that they weren't intending to deceive anyone. Or that there was no way they could have forseen people getting hurt over this if they'd thought it through properly. Because to my mind I still can't see this as anything more than telling hurtful lies dressed up in fancy clothing. I'd be interested to know just what exactly the perpetrators expected people to think when they saw all of this?

I don't play the bullshit game.

So now? Well, the people involved are still my friends, because I won't discard a friendship over one fuck up, but I'd be lying if I said I trusted them all as much now as I did at this time yesterday. Sad, but true. As for LJ volunteer work -- well, Ive commented before that I really don't need any extra stress in my life right now. I have absolutely zero motivation to do any support type work just now. I'm going to see how I feel in a couple of days.

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Don't read my latest post.

No, really, don't.

See... I thought it was funny, but I know some don't.

I hope you don't see my finding it funny as an attack. It's not. I just... found it funny.

If that offends, I'm sorry. I do realize you must have felt in a bit of a spot.

Everyone is perfectly welcome to opinions. I hold people responsible for their actions, not their opinions. So sure, think whatever you want and it doesn't bother me.

You're my new hero.

"Get a sense of humor" is the lamest response I've seen, IMHO. It's insulting. It's like saying "you have no sense of humor if you also have empathy". It assumes that you don't have a sense of humor because you also have taste.

I have a highly active and silly sense of humor... and I don't find jeking people's emotions around to be funny.

Shine on, sister. Don't let the bastards grid you down.

Telling people to get a sense of humor is a lame-ass way some people respond when their attempted jokes fall flat.

yep, you're saying everything i'm thinking. comparing arie's suspension and the loss of howto the DDoS attacks is stupid.

yeah, my respect for a whole lot of people dropped seriously today.

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Thank you, Rho. Honestly.

What I would still like to know is, did any of the people involved think ahead of time that, hey, maybe this would put Support in a bind? The board has been virtually abandoned all day long, not only because people have been so wrapped up in debating all of this but also because a lot of people have decided to step back for a few days until they calm down. I'm one of those people. I woke up this morning and saw that a year of work on my part might have been all in vain. Support appeared to be falling apart internally. Some advance warning to volunteers about the prank might have been nice, since some of us really do care about the site, and have devoted a lot of time to it.

I'm upset that I'm in the group that's been labeled the "overreacters" and the "people with no sense of humor", but I don't really care at this time. And it's hard for me to accept one-line apologies from people who really don't seem to be sorry for it, and who keep talking about how great it was. But I'll forgive. And sorry for rambling in your journal. I just wanted to say thanks for representing the other side so well.

Thank you for posting this. You said it better than I ever could have.

I'm sure you've already seen my post by now, so you know how I feel about this. I know I'm not quitting support because of this, but I don't think I'll be as serious about it as I used to be.

I've said this in other places discussing this, and I'll say it here: I apologise for my part in perpetuating the prank. I still don't really understand why people were hurt, but I don't really need to. They clearly were hurt, and for that reason, I owe an apology, and I'm sorry.

I do agree that howto being down, and its implications for Support, were not funny. That should have been considered when this whole thing was cooked up.

So...yeah. It went wrong, and I for one am sorry, for whatever it might be worth.

thank you. well said.

*starts to rant, then stops*

yeah, whatever. this isn't something that affected me all that greatly, or i'm going to hold a grudge over, or anything like that. but i think this needed to be said, and i agree with it. pranks are cruel, and show a lack of maturity on the part of the prankster.

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