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Geek social fallacies, LJ abuse, growing up
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The other day ghoti posted a link to these geek social fallacies which I found very interesting. They seem to expand upon and codify several thoughts which I already held. I think I probably held several of these fallacies as views in the past, but I'm fairly sure that I don't any more. That's not to say that I'm perfect, I just suffer from a different set of imperfections.

Social fallacy #5 is one that I don't think has ever really been a problem for me. Possibly the main reason for this is that the only time since about age 10 when I ever had what could be described as a circle of friends who were within easy geographic distance of me was when I was living in Canterbury, and for most of the itme then I was most interested in finding excuses not to get out of bed. Even so, I'm generally of the opinion that time apart is Important and Necessary, so I don't think I really understand this one.

Social fallacy #4 is one that I touched upon the other day, when talking about friendster. The friend of my friend frequently is not my friend. The friend of my friend frequently is an absolute tit. Personally, I tend tot hink about that sort of thing in terms of sets and intersections, but essentially, I agree with what the author of the page has laid out.

Social fallacy #3 is, I think, one that I used to suffer from. I remember days of sitting up, listening to people angst, always being there and taking in little bits of their pain, even when mine was already too much. I remember sleepless nights. I remember how much it all sucked. I now tend to think more in terms of moderation. I will still go out of my way for a friend, but I won't drop everything, except in very rare cases. Obviously, the closer I am to someone, the higher they are in my priorities. Equally obviously, the less frequently I have to go out of my way for them, the more willing I will be to do so when it is necessary. Social fallacy #3 is about a lack of priorities, and I think I'm starting to be much better with them than I used to be.

Social fallacy #2 definitely used to be a problem with me, and possibly still is, but much less so than it used to be. One of my other recent entries touched on this sort of thing. It's the old beautiful and unique snowflake syndrome again. I'd like to think that I've finally learned that lesson. As such, if anyone ever sees me being a fucknut, please tell me as much. You don't even have to use the word "fucknut" if you don't want to. You can refer to me as an asshat or a jerkwad if you'd prefer. Just don't let me lose touch with reality.

And then there's social fallacy #1, which, to me, is the biggy. This is the one that drives me absolutely insane on a regular basis. Why are so many otherwise intelligent people seemingly so willing to suffer fools so gladly? This is the reason that I left (#)afp. Trolls were placated. Everything was tolerated. People who everyone hated turned up to meets. This is also, I think, the main reason I stopped doing LiveJournal Support. Too much consideration was given to idiots. To the people who don't want to have to learn, or go through due process. The poeple who expect everything given to them on a plate. The people with the social skills of a rabid skunk on crack. Sure, you lose a few people by not being quite so welcoming, but the majority (though not all) of the people you lose are the poeple you don't want in the first place.

In related news, I rejoined the LJ abuse team earlier in week. I know that you're all thinking "you're insane" (or possibly some of you are thinking "the LJ what team" or "I want to do that" or "welcome back", but most of you are probably thinking "you're insane") but I don't think it's so bad. One of the wonderful, wonderful things about the LJ abuse team is that they do not suffer, in the slightest, from geek social fallacy #1. I don't think it's possible to do so when you have to deal with such utter fuckwittery on a daily basis, and this makes me happy.

I was talking to jpallan the other day, and we both mentioned how when we were younger we would have been somewhat overawed by the abuse team. It's like first steps onto Usenet. There I was, as a teen, amongst a group of witty and erudite twenty-somethings. For my first steps on Usenet, I was aggorant and annoying and had a superiority complex. Before too long though, it had developed into an inferiority complex. Possibly big fish small pond syndrome, and seeing the wider world. But to see all these people, and to be a part of the group made me think, "how did I wind up grouped in with these people?" But now, that isn't the case. It's not a case of better or worse, or anything like that, it's just a case of not caring. It's a case of accepting things as they are and getting on with life. I think that I'm going to have to start admitting to being a proper real adult before too long. Scary.

And I'm nto remotely happy with that last paragraph, but I have to run off to a lecture now, so it can stay in its current form, as a testament to my hurriedness.

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Of course you're insane. It's why I like you.

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