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New year
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I've been completely unexpectedly invited to a new year's party, and I can't decide whether or not I want to go.

Reasons not to go:

I don't know the hosts of the party all that well. They're people I'm friendly with, sure, but they're not particularly close friends.
I also doubt I'll know anyone else there.
Public transport at this time of year is an absolute nightmare and is best avoided.
If I were to have a panic attack or a particularly nasty bout of depression, I'd not have any convenient escape, and it could be potentially quite nasty.
Staying up late for new year could mess up my sleep patterns, which are fairly precarious.
And besides, I have nothing to wear.

Reasons to go:

I really really need to get out and interact with people a whole lot more than I do.


Just from the list, it would seem like not going was something of a no-brainer. However, the one reason to go there is one that carries a lot of weight. I'm still erring on the side of not going, mind. I'm thinking that there are decent genuine reasons not to go, and that trying to push myself into being sociable in this sort of situation seems a little like learning to swim by jumping in at the deep end. The problem is that I don't trust my judgement on this issue at all. Rationalisation is a particular talent of mine, and I'm no good at telling when I'm doing it. Second guessing myself has never been so much fun.

So what do you guys think? Should I go or not? And more importantly, why? I'd do a poll, but I think I'm more likely to listen to thoughts and reasoning than I am to pay any attention at all to the results of tickyboxes.

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It's about 40 miles away. They're down in Bolton, and I'm up in Lancaster. Close enough to not be a huge journey, but certainly not close enough to get a taxi home. I shudder to think how much a taxi journey over that distance on new year would cost.

How would you be getting there?
Do ou have a friend with a car you could invite along?
Book and prearrange the price in advance and then just see if they can come earlier if you need them- they'll probably be fiarly free prior to midnight- it's afterwards that prices will rise mentally!

I'm not sure. I hadn't really thought it through. I was too busy thinking over the "should I go or not" parts to spare any thought for things like practicalities. I suppose I'd get the train down. Then as for getting back, well, I suppose I'd best check if I can crash there overnight, because if not then it's all academic. (Jenny, if you're paying attention, do you have crash space? A patch of floor somewhere would be plenty.)

As for people with cars, I can't think of any. I suppose that I could ask my parents, but I don't know what they're doing for new year, they might not even be in the area, and I wouldn't want to impose on them and ruin their new year anyway.

Yes, there will be floorspace available. Unfortunately all the beds have been spoken for. If you have something like a sleeping bag and/or a sleeping mat you might find them useful.

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