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New year
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I've been completely unexpectedly invited to a new year's party, and I can't decide whether or not I want to go.

Reasons not to go:

I don't know the hosts of the party all that well. They're people I'm friendly with, sure, but they're not particularly close friends.
I also doubt I'll know anyone else there.
Public transport at this time of year is an absolute nightmare and is best avoided.
If I were to have a panic attack or a particularly nasty bout of depression, I'd not have any convenient escape, and it could be potentially quite nasty.
Staying up late for new year could mess up my sleep patterns, which are fairly precarious.
And besides, I have nothing to wear.

Reasons to go:

I really really need to get out and interact with people a whole lot more than I do.


Just from the list, it would seem like not going was something of a no-brainer. However, the one reason to go there is one that carries a lot of weight. I'm still erring on the side of not going, mind. I'm thinking that there are decent genuine reasons not to go, and that trying to push myself into being sociable in this sort of situation seems a little like learning to swim by jumping in at the deep end. The problem is that I don't trust my judgement on this issue at all. Rationalisation is a particular talent of mine, and I'm no good at telling when I'm doing it. Second guessing myself has never been so much fun.

So what do you guys think? Should I go or not? And more importantly, why? I'd do a poll, but I think I'm more likely to listen to thoughts and reasoning than I am to pay any attention at all to the results of tickyboxes.

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well I wouldn't go if I were me, which I am :-)

... is a datapoint.

and I am probably average-ish in my emotional ability to cope with parties and strange people. Not that it's impossible to have a good time at that kind of party, but just that for me that sounds like a scenario where it's rather random whether I do or I don't - a gamble. I would rather save my train fare money for something with better odds. Or if I _were_ going to go, then I would probably want to go with someone who was a close(ish) friend, so we could kind of stick together.

so basically I think your intuitions are guiding you right on this one - it _would_ be an "in the deep end".

Not having anything to wear is a rubbish reason not to go, mind you :-) but the others are quite reasonable i.m.o.

my 2p for what it's worth...

Having nothing to wear was a deliberately naff excuse :)

Thanks for the feedback, though.

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